Fred Abbasi

It was the night of June 7^th, 2008; I was at my cousin’s 19^th birthday party I had thrown for her in Bethesda, Maryland. It was about 1030 pm I had missed a call from a close girlfriend of mine, Zohal. I was going to ignore the call, but something told me to call her back, so I went to the bathroom and gave her a call. She then informed me, that my closest guy friend, Fred Abbasi had been shot. I fell to the ground and burst into tears. I wasn’t sure what to do or say, but I ran back into the party room screamed for my friend Tina, and told her what had happened. We then went to the hospital that he was taken to, and met with my close friend Mex, who was Fred’s nephew. He informed us that Fred was in surgery and had less than a 10% chance of living. About 30 minutes later we were informed that Fred was dead. The rest of the events of the night are all a blur to me, but all I could think of was “why Fred?” Fred was by far the best man I had ever come across. Such a gentleman in all aspects, and the man my best friend planned on spending the rest of her life with. My best friend Samira had been dating Fred for about six months, which is now how long it has been since Fred has passed. Although, to many this may seem like such a short amount of time, now that Fred is gone, I see that six months is a lifetime to many.

If I had learned anything from Fred when he was alive, it was to live everyday as if it were my last. He definitely lived by this motto; everyday with him was such an adventure, and the funnest of adventures. I had always taken everything for granted. Everyday was just another day, now I strive to live each day with a smile on my face. I no longer let the small things bother me, and make sure to tell the people around me that I love and care for them. I’ve learned that you should never take anything or anyone for granted. Fred made sure, that everyone from his closest friend, to the man behind the register was left with a smile on their face. Even if he was in pain or upset about something, he made sure to hide it as much as possible just so that the people around him weren’t upset by his mood. He had the most radiant of smiles that could light up your heart as well as the darkest of rooms. He had the type of personality that you couldn’t help but fall in love with. At the age of 23 he was a very hard working man, a wonderful son, brother, uncle, friend, and boyfriend.

Fred was shot at about 945 pm in front of his house. The details of his murder have yet to be discovered. Many speculations have been made, but regardless of the reasons, the fact that he is gone will never change. The hearts that have been broken because of his death will never be mended.

 Fred Abbasi was a great man, he taught me lessons that not even the best teacher, mother, or father could teach someone. As hard as it is, life has to go on, and it does, without your consent and whether or not you’re ready. So you have to live as if you were going to die tomorrow, because you never know…tomorrow could be your last.

Wow how the time does fly...6 months have gone by and still you continue to teach us of our strengths and weaknesses..What an honor to have known you and seen how great a person you are..You are still in everyone's hearts and minds as you will remain! Your presence is felt everyday and you are very much alive in each and everyone of us...Keep on smiling down at us! :)

Always missing you..

Words can't express the pain that you have left behind... It's been tooo long since I last saw you, I wish then I took advantage of the opportunity I had, because now I dont know how long I have to wait for that chance to come around. misssss youuu soooooo muchhhh <3

~~~Who you'd be Today~~~

"It ain't fair you died too young
Like a story that had just begun
The death tore the pages all away
God knows how I miss you
All the hell that I've been through
Just knowing no one could take your place
Sometimes I wonder who you'd be today"

-Kenny Chesney